Birthdays are great, except your own. Shouldn't it be the other way around?
Recognise the feeling? For Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), your own birthday can be a horror story. Lots of people to invite. Who should be invited? Who shouldn't? Who will come? Who won't? Who will come early? What will you do when someone is early? What will you do anyway? What do you want to do? And these are just some of the questions HSPs may ask themselves.
So organising involves making many decisions - not something HSPs tend to easily make. Plus, the day itself. Lots of people. Some of them you may not even like. Lots of noise. Lots of shiny presents to open. And everyone wanting to see you. Being in the middle of the attention. Loads of small talk. And why would you give a birthday party again? Because you were invited to others' parties?
Enough reasons to hate your own birthdays. There are many reasons why other persons' birthdays are nice: you come and leave when you want, you choose the persons to talk to, you can choose a present, you're not the center of the attention, you can help organising where and when and if you want...
Don't feel bad if you don't organise something. Rather do something you really like. For example, having a quiet drink with a close friend. Or going to the beach to write a bit. Or going to a quiet park. No one should oblige you to do anything, as it's your birthday. What others think you should do, that's their opinions. It may not be what you really want.
Questions to ask yourself:
Recognise the feeling? For Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs), your own birthday can be a horror story. Lots of people to invite. Who should be invited? Who shouldn't? Who will come? Who won't? Who will come early? What will you do when someone is early? What will you do anyway? What do you want to do? And these are just some of the questions HSPs may ask themselves.
So organising involves making many decisions - not something HSPs tend to easily make. Plus, the day itself. Lots of people. Some of them you may not even like. Lots of noise. Lots of shiny presents to open. And everyone wanting to see you. Being in the middle of the attention. Loads of small talk. And why would you give a birthday party again? Because you were invited to others' parties?
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| Happy birthday - or not? (c) |
Don't feel bad if you don't organise something. Rather do something you really like. For example, having a quiet drink with a close friend. Or going to the beach to write a bit. Or going to a quiet park. No one should oblige you to do anything, as it's your birthday. What others think you should do, that's their opinions. It may not be what you really want.
Questions to ask yourself:
- What do I really want to do for my birthday?
- Who do I really want to see on my birthday?
- Am I organising something for myself or for the others?
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